The holiday season is filled with family festivities, which can present challenges for those co-parenting under a timesharing agreement. Both parents should have the opportunity to share special moments with their children around the holidays. With the presumption in favor of equal timesharing that went into effect in Florida in 2023, many divorced coparents are facing their first holidays in separate households. It’s important to navigate this period thoughtfully and effectively.
Here are some strategies to help ensure a smooth and joyful holiday season for coparents and children alike.
1. Communicate early and often
One of the key elements to successful co-parenting during the holidays is communication. Start discussing holiday plans well in advance to avoid last-minute conflicts. Keep communication lines open, clear and civil. Consider setting up a specific time to discuss holiday arrangements. This can help manage expectations and foster a cooperative environment.
2. Be flexible and accommodating
A thorough custody agreement should address holiday schedules. Now that equal timesharing is a presumption in Florida child custody cases, many timesharing arrangements grant each parent the right to spend holidays with the children on alternating years. Nonetheless, flexibility and adjustments may be necessary. Use a shared calendar to mark out important dates and travel plans. Discuss any potential scheduling conflicts early on.
Remember, the holiday season is not just about specific dates, but the spirit of the season. If the actual day of a holiday cannot be shared, consider creating special moments on alternative days. Flexibility from both parents will help make the holiday season brighter for everyone, especially the children.
3. Prioritize the children’s best interests
Always keep the children’s happiness and well-being at the forefront. The holidays should be a time of joy and not stress for the children. Discuss with them what they envision for the holidays and try to work their wishes into your plans where possible. This not only makes the holidays more enjoyable for them but also teaches them valuable lessons about compromise and family values.
Incorporate traditions from both sides of the family to help the children feel a strong connection with their heritage and family history. Be enthusiastic about their time with the other parent and encourage a positive outlook towards the shared schedule.
4. Create new traditions (and keep some of the old)
The realities of a split schedule might mean that old traditions need to be adjusted and new traditions created. This can be an exciting opportunity to start fresh traditions that can be cherished for years to come. New traditions – as well as the old – can help make the transitions between homes during the holidays feel less disruptive for the children.
5. Seek professional legal guidance if needed
Sometimes, despite your best efforts, custody conflicts may arise during the holiday season. Don’t hesitate to seek help from a family law attorney who understands the nuances of Florida law. A mediator or counselor can also provide valuable advice and potential solutions.
By focusing on communication, flexibility and the children’s best interests, co-parenting during the holiday season can be more manageable and joyful for everyone – the children, most of all.